Single Seniors Mixer now happening after my talks!

I was speaking at Copperfield's Books in Sebastopol, CA, to a roomful of eager listeners, mostly our age. My favorite part is always the Q&A segment, which this time ran until the staffer announced that we had to stop because the store was closing.

Many of the questions were from singles about dating. For example:

• "Is it OK to lie about my age on the online dating sites?" a beautiful, vibrant woman of 70+ asked. "If I tell the truth, no one will date me." I got on my soapbox about telling the truth, changing society's view of older people as unsexy and undesirable by showing that yes, we're 72 or 67 or 78 and still sexy. Coincidentally, Helen Mirren at 66 was just voted "Body of the Year" against plenty of 20-30-year-old celebrities. (I know we're not Helen Mirren, but my point stands.)

• "Are condoms really necessary at our age?" Yes! Most of group was flabbergasted when I told them that fastest growing population for new HIV infections was the 50+ age group. "Should I repeat that?" I asked. People nodded. I repeated it. "People with SDSs don't tell you the truth -- sometimes they don't even know they're infected, and sometimes they lie!" I explained why I felt it was important to have a whole chapter in Naked at Our Age about safe sex, and I gave tidbits from that chapter about having the "condom conversation" and about eroticizing condom use.

After the audience disbanded, several people, mostly unpartnered, came up to me to ask more questions. But the store was closing, and we had to stop.

Afterwards, I realized I had missed a great opportunity. I should have invited the singles to join me at a restaurant next door for dessert and conversation. I should have organized a "Senior Singles Mixer."

So that's what I did at Book Passage in Corte Madera, CA, the following Saturday. It turned out to be more a discussion group than a "see if there's someone here you want to date" event. We talked candidly about our personal dating experiences, hopes, apprehensions. We listened to each other with interest and compassion, and left understanding more about each other and ourselves.

I'm motivated now to announce a "Senior Singles Mixer/ Discussion" at the end of all my talks from now on, as long as the organizers agree. My next one is at the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco on August 18. (See more info about this and all my upcoming events here.)

Join me?

If you're not nearby, what would you like to discuss in a Single Seniors Mixer/ Discussion group? You can bring up topics right here.

Your Questions about Senior Sex

When I give a talk about senior sex, my favorite part is answering your questions. I feel both proud and humble that you trust me (and the audience) enough to voice your concerns.

I've been traveling to tell people about my new book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex and talking at bookstores, sexuality shops, a senior center, a restaurant, and my 50th high school reunion (!) about the myths and realities of older age sexuality. Here are some of the most frequent questions and topics you've been sharing:

• The #1 question from partnered seniors is how to revive a dull, infrequent, or nonexistent sex life. I talk about scheduling sex and understanding that at our age, desire often follows physiological arousal rather than the other way around. In other words, getting started with touching and kissing will get you in the mood after your body starts responding -- don't wait to be in the mood.

• Single seniors ask about the importance of safe sex, hoping (from the wording of your questions and the looks on your faces) that I'll tell you we probably don't need condoms at our age. I tell you the opposite of that -- yes, we need to use condoms, and we should do so whether someone tells us his or her health history or not. The fastest growing population for new HIV infections is the over 50 age group.

•  Women whose partners experience erectile difficulties often don't understand what's going on ("Is it because I don't attract him any more?") or what to do to keep the sensuality going in the relationship ("Isn't it cruel teasing if I want to touch and be touched?").

• Both men and women scoff at the idea of sex toys until I tell them why a well-placed vibrator can mean the difference between orgasm or not.

Is it any surprise that that one place people were reluctant to ask questions was my high school reunion? It's understandable -- we were with people we hadn't seen since we were 17 and our main sex problem was how to hide our activities from our parents! When I saw that my classmates were uneasy about asking questions, I said, "If you'd rather talk to me privately, I'll be giving consultations in the corner."

For the rest of the weekend, people came up to me to request their "consultation in the corner"!

Your comments are welcome. If you were in my audience, what question do you hope I'd answer? If you're brave, include the answer you think I'd give!

If you want to be in my audience for real, click here to see my upcoming events. I'd love to meet you!

Joan's Upcoming Events

I'd love to meet you in person! As events are scheduled, I'll post them here.

If you are interested in having me speak at your event or to your organization, please email me. See more information about my aging & sexuality talks here. (I also speak about fitness -- click here.)

Tuesday, August 16, 7 pm. The Center for Sex & Culture, 1349 Mission St. between 9th /10th St. (corner of Grace St.). What do boomers and seniors really want to know about later-life sex? What are their challenges, questions, and misconceptions? Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex and Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, shares the most common, most unusual, and most entertaining questions she hears as she writes and speaks about ageless sexuality – and her answers. Join in by emailing your own questions to Joan and she’ll include them in her talk. "Senior Singles Mixer/ Discussion" follows Joan's talk.

Sunday, Sept. 11, 2011, 2:30-5 pm. What I Learned about Book Publicity since 2005. Redwood Writers, Flamingo Conference Resort & Spa, 2777 Fourth Street, Santa Rosa, CA 95405. "I'm convinced that book publicity and self-promotion in this new world has to be targeted at the Internet first,” Joan says. “That’s the fastest, easiest, and most efficient and far-reaching way to get in front of readers, and it doesn’t cost a thing--except, of course, time.” Joan shares her tips for using the Internet wisely and productively for your own book publicity and author promotion. $5/members; $8/non-members.



October 1-2, 2011: Join us for the 15th anniversary of A Woman's Touch Sexuality Resource Center, the woman-owned and operated sexuality boutique in Madison, WI and Milwaukee, providing tools, toys, and education for sexual health and pleasure. Joan Price, author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, flies from California to help Madison and Milwaukee celebrate. Co-owners Ellen Barnard and Myrtle Wilhite provided expert tips in Joan’s latest book--and now Joan brings her women’s workshops to A Woman's Touch. Details coming soon.

Internet Radio: Online Now

Ageless Sexuality. Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross interview Joan Price about how sex changes as you age, what we can look forward to, and making this a time for breaking rules and discovering your own sexual fluidity. Hear the lively and outrageous podcast here. 

Hot Sox: Sex and Aging. Sex educator Jamye Waxman interviews pro-aging sexpert Joan Price about a myriad of senior sex topics and and, yes, about her personal life -- you'll learn a lot! Read Jamye's summary and get links to the podcast here, or listen directly here.


Growing Bolder: It's Not About Age; It's About Attitude. Part of Growing Bolder is being able to talk about anything. Even sex! When Joan Price wrote "Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex," she knew she might get some raised eyebrows. Even Joan admits that many of us were raised to not talk about intimacy at any age, and certainly not over the age of 50. But she's determined to battle against what she calls ageism -- and wants to battle stereotypes that people over 50 are asexual or even uninterested in sexual relationships, and make it less taboo to talk about our needs. Do men have an easier time than women? Does body image play a role in misconceptions about relationships after 50? Joan talks about the power of touch, what it takes to change our own minds (and then change the minds of others) why she thinks that sex can be be better at 60 than at 20! Hear Joan's interview here.


WebTalkRadio: Have you ever worried about how aging will affect your sexuality? Ageless sexuality advocate Joan Price addresses the challenges of older age sex with Laurie Handlers on Sex and Happiness.  Laurie asks Joan about body image, lack of lubrication, using sex toys alone and with a partner, grief, and more. Hear this revealing, hour-long interview here.


BlogTalkRadio. Dr. Veronica Anderson hosts "Sex And The Senior Citizen." Baby boomers are not through revolutionizing our society. Now, as they start to become seniors, they are taking along their expectations of an active, fulfilling sex life. Having grown up with The Pill, today's seniors have a different mindset about sex from their parents: intimacy, romance, even recreation. And that other pill (the little blue one) doesn't hurt either. Even nursing homes are now adopting policies so they don't "interrupt" their patients' private moments. Now 40% of men between 75 and 85 consider themselves sexually active. Guests include Joan Price, author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty. Listen to the podcast here.

Recently completed events:

Saturday, July 30, 2011, 4-5 pm, Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd, Corte Madera, CA 94925. Joan Price discusses Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex ($16.95). Price presents a candid book addressing senior sexuality in all its colors—the challenges, the disappointments, and the surprises, as well as the delights and the love stories. This work gives real-life people over 50 straightforward advice from experts. Bonus: Single seniors, come to the Book Passage cafe after Joan's Naked at Our Age talk for a mixer! (When Joan spoke at Book Passage in 2006, they had to set up chairs in the hallway, so get there early!)

Tuesday, July 26, 2011, 7 pm., Copperfield's Books, Sebastopol, CA. Joan Price is talking out loud about a subject that is often ignored or ridiculed in our society: later-life sexuality. Naked at Our Age is a candid, straight-talking book addressing senior sexuality in all its colors—the challenges, the disappointments, and the surprises, as well as the delights and the love stories. Naked at Our Age gives real-life people over fifty a voice to tell stories of their past and present sex lives, ask questions, and get straightforward advice and information from experts. No topic related to elder sexuality is off-limits.


Friday, July 15, 2011, 12:30-1:30 pm, 211 Sutter St., San Francisco. "Orgasm Is . . . Not Just for Younguns! Tips and Tools for Savvy Seniors." Senior sexpert Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, shares candid information and tips for recharging your sex life after 50, 60, and beyond. Whether you’re single or partnered, male or female, gay or straight, you’ll leave with a new understanding of your changes and ideas for recapturing the sizzle that you can put into practice immediately! Part of the Project “Orgasm Is ________” lunchtime series from OneTaste to celebrate the release of Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm by OneTaste’s founder, Nicole Daedone, June 22-July 18. Location is a pop-up bookstore at the site that was formerly Loehmann's, near Union Square.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011, 7 pm., Barnes & Noble, 82nd and Broadway, New York City. Joan Price is talking out loud about a subject that is often ignored or ridiculed in our society: later-life sexuality. Joan shatters the myths about senior sex and reads from Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. More details here.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011, 1:30-3 pm, Hudson Guild, 119 Ninth Ave, New York City. "Let's Talk about Sexuality at Our Age!" Joan Price and Rae Francouer share their enthusiasm and expertise about sex in later life. Joan is the author of Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. Rae is the author of Free Fall: A Late-in-Life Love Affair. 




Thursday, July 7, 2011, 7-9 pm, Babeland - SoHo, 43 Mercer St., New York, NY 10013. "Let's Talk about Senior Sex!" Joan Price and Rae Francouer share their enthusiasm and expertise about sex in later life. Joan is the author of Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. Rae is the author of Free Fall: A Late-in-Life Love Affair. (Yes, this is the same topic as our Hudson Guild event, but since we're talking at Babeland, it will be racier, with sex toy recommendations and more!)



Saturday, July 9, 2011, 3-4 pm. Joan speaks at her 50th Ithaca High School reunion, at the pavilion at Stewart Park, Ithaca, New York. Talking Out Loud about Sex -- Yes, at Our Age with Joan (Kassman) Price. Who imagined that our shy and diminutive Joanie Kassman (now Joan Price) would be known at age 67 as a "senior sexpert"! “You didn’t vote for me as class treasurer, so I had to get your attention somehow,” says Joan, who is the author of two books on sex and aging: Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. Enjoy her lively discussion – guaranteed to entertain as well as inform.

Sunday, July 10, 2011, 3-4 pm, Buffalo Street Books, in DeWitt Mall on Buffalo St between Cayuga and Tioga, Ithaca, NY. Joan Price, Ithaca native and author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, shatters the “5 Biggest Myths about Sex after Fifty” and shares the most common questions that Boomers, seniors, and elders asked her while she was researching her new book.

Sunday, June 19, 2011, 3-5 pm, workshop: Ask Me, I'll Tell You: Women and Men Talk Out Loud about Sex & Aging. Good Vibrations, 1620 Polk Street (at Sacramento Street), San Francisco, CA 94109. We’re talking about senior sex—the challenges, the pleasures, and all the questions we didn’t think we could ask out loud. What arouses us now, when the old ways aren’t working like they used to? What do we wish we understood and could communicate better about our changing bodies, desires, and responses? How do we spice up our sexual repertoire? In this eye opening, interactive, mixed-gender workshop, you’ll get to voice your questions and get answers. Joan Price, author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, guides the conversation and discovery, and offers tips for putting the zest back into later-life sexuality. For couples and singles, men and women.  $25 in advance, $30 at the door. (415) 345-0400 or http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/154492.

Saturday, June 4, 4:30-5:30. Senior Sex at Gaia’s Garden, 1899 Mendocino Avenue, Santa Rosa, CA 95401. No, we won’t be doing it – we’ll be talking about it with Joan Price, local author of Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex. Joan will shatter the “5 Biggest Myths about Sex and Aging” and share the most common questions that Boomers, seniors, and elders ask her. Yes, she’ll answer those questions, too -- in the candid, upbeat manner that led the media to dub her “senior sexpert.” (The Bohemian also called her a “wrinkly sex kitten,” but you be the judge of that!) Then you’ll have time to buy a personally autographed copy of Naked at Our Age. And we’re giving things away! Samples of Blossom Organics lubricant free to all post-menopausal women! The first 20 people who purchase Naked at Our Age or Better Than I Ever Expected from Joan get a free book of erotica from Cleis Press – many titles available! Enjoy a wholesome and delicious meal at Gaia’s Garden, voted the Best Vegetarian Restaurant by readers of The Bohemian. Stay for live music by the String Rays at 7:00.

(schedule updated 8/3/11)

Women & Men Talk about Sex & Aging, Berkeley, CA

If you're in the San Francisco Bay Area, I hope you’ll come to my June 15 workshop at Good Vibrations in Berkeley and forward the description below to your friends who might be interested.

The workshop will be informative and entertaining as we share attitudes, experiences, questions, and answers with other men and women our age. Bring your burning questions and an open mind, and be prepared to get candid answers! Thanks – and please let me know if you’re coming. -- Joan

From Good Vibrations:

Ask Me, I'll Tell You: Women and Men Talk about Sex and Aging (After Hours Workshop)
When: Mon, June 15, 8pm – 10pm
Where: Good Vibrations Berkeley, 2504 San Pablo Avenue (at Dwight Way), Berkeley, CA 94702

$25 if pre-registered, $30 for drop-ins; Please call 510-841-8987 to reserve a seat.

For many people, sex and aging are two of the hardest topics to talk about. Add in the challenges of communicating across the genders and it can sometimes seem impossible. But Joan Price, ageless sexuality advocate, and author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty is here to help! In this interactive and fun discussion night, you'll have a chance to get the answers you're looking for. Joan will guide an evening of conversation and discovery, and will help everyone in the room learn from each other. For couples & singles, men & women. If you're 50+, or you plan to be, this workshop is for you. For more info about Joan, please visit her website at http://www.joanprice.com/ and her blog at http://www.betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/.

We strongly recommend reserving your seat in our workshops. Some of our classes fill up and signing up early will make sure you can attend them. Other workshops have smaller attendance and we may cancel an event if only a few people are signed up in advance. Early pre-registration is the best way to avoid disappointment.

Please call Good Vibrations at 510-841-8987 during store hours to register for this class. We’ll need your name, phone number and a credit card number to reserve a seat. However, we will only charge your card if you don’t come to the class and you don’t cancel your reservation by 3 pm on the day of the class. Registration fees can be paid in cash or credit card when you arrive. We’ll be open at 7:30 pm and all workshops are from 8-10 pm. We suggest that you plan to arrive a few minutes early to check in at the counter.

I’ll also be speaking at One Taste in San Francisco on August 21 – I'll post more details later.

Women and Men Talk about Sex and Aging June 15, 2009, Berkeley, CA

Do you live in the San Francisco Bay Area? I have a workshop coming up at Good Vibrations in Berkeley, and I'd love to meet you. Please tell your SF Bay Area friends. (If your organization would like me to come to your area to give a workshop, please email me.)

Ask Me, I'll Tell You: Women and Men Talk about Sex and Aging

Monday, June 15, 2009, 8-10 pm

Workshop for men and women; $25 pre-registered, $30 for drop-ins if space permits (best to pre-register)

Good Vibrations, 2504 San Pablo Ave, Berkeley, CA .

For many people, sex and aging are two of the hardest topics to talk about. Add in the challenges of communicating across the genders and it can sometimes seem impossible. But Joan Price, ageless sexuality advocate, and author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty is here to help! In this interactive and fun discussion night, you'll have a chance to get the answers you're looking for. Joan will guide an evening of conversation and discovery, and will help everyone in the room learn from each other. For couples & singles, men & women. If you're 50+, or you plan to be, this workshop is for you. Preregister at least 24 hours in advance by contacting the Berkeley Good Vibrations (510) 841-8987. You will need to give the staff your name, phone number, and a credit card number.

Here are some comments from past workshop participants:

"Joan is absolutely charming, totally honest in her self-disclosure in the service of teaching us. I would recommend this to any older man or woman experiencing difficulty or disinterest."

"I liked your warmth and down to earth manner, your sincerity."

"You were frank and blunt -- endearingly so."

"I liked that you let conversation take place, and we were able to disclose and relate."
"This was a wonderful workshop, very inspiring and entertaining. Lots to look forward to!"

"I was incredibly pleased with her approach and honesty. Great anecdotes and info."
"I think your book and workshop would be great for people of all ages, especially, but not limited to, those who have gone through accidents, trauma, cancer/disease, chronic fatigue, depression, physical disability, and childbirth."

Elders and Sexuality: panel in San Francisco 7/26/07

(updated 7/17/07)

(San Francisco Convention & Visitors Bureau Photo)

I'm pleased to be on a panel of experts on Elders and Sexuality: The Evolution of Desire in the Later Years: A Public Panel on Sexuality and Aging, Thursday evening July 26, 2007 6:30pm-8:30pm at Laguna Grove Care, 624 Laguna Street, San Francisco, CA 94102, sponsored by Pacific Institute and the California Institute of Integral Studies. Here's the panel description:

How do cultural values and institutional settings affect the social value placed on sexuality among the elderly? What are the sexual needs and expressions among our elders? And what is the potential and possibilities of sexual expression later in life? Join us for a public panel that will explore such topics as:

* Facts and Fictions of Sexuality and Aging
* Addressing Cultural Challenges and Affirming Sexual Needs
* Sexuality in Residential Care Facilities: Philosophies from the Pacific Institute Perspective
* Transcendent Sex in Later Life: Experiencing Spiritual Awakenings through Sexual Expression

Panelists:

Dr. Liz Macera is the Co- director of the Gerontological Nursing Program at UC San Francisco. Dr. Macera is currently working on a grant funded research project on intimacy issues in assisted living environments, where she will be interviewing AgeSong residents for the data collection for this research.

Joan Price is the author of “Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty” and an advocate for ageless sexuality. She was interviewed about senior sex and dating on ABC Nightline. Joan's mission is to change society's view of sex and aging, one mind at a time. One of Joan's blog readers called her "the beautiful face of senior sex, who shows up whenever the age group is ridiculed."

Dr. Nader Robert Shabahangi, is current President and Co-Founder of EHI and President and Founder of the Pacific Institute. A licensed psychotherapist with a Ph.D from Stanford University, Nader is a leader, trainer, and writer on applying the Existential-Humanistic approach to the treatment of elderly in the United States and Europe.

Moderator: Elizabeth Shaver,PhD cand. MFT, is a psychotherapist specializing in sexuality, trauma, and relationship issues. A researcher and adjunct faculty at the California Institute of Integral Studies, she has been a professional trained in the field of Holistic Sexuality, working with victims of sexual abuse and sexual offenders. She contributed to Dr. Jenny Wade's seminal research on transpersonal sexual experiences in Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens The Veil.

Meet Joan in Person

I'd love to meet you! Here are the places I'm speaking, signing, and presenting workshops. Please contact your friends in these cities.

(If you're a member of an organization that would be interested in hiring me to speak or present an interactive workshop, please let me know. See my web page for meeting planners.)

[please see updated schedule here.]


Monday, August 14, 8-10 pm, Good Vibrations, 2504 San Pablo Ave, Berkeley, CA . Workshop for men and women: Ask Me, I'll Tell You: Women and Men Talk about Sex and Aging. For many people, sex and aging are two of the hardest topics to talk about. Add in the challenges of communicating across the genders and it can sometimes seem impossible. But Joan Price, ageless sexuality advocate, and author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty is here to help! In this interactive and fun discussion night, you'll have a chance to get the answers you're looking for. Joan will guide an evening of conversation and discovery, and will help everyone in the room learn from each other. For couples & singles, men & women. If you're 60+, or you plan to be, this workshop is for you. Preregister at least 24 hours in advance by contacting the Berkeley Good VIbrations at (510) 841-8987 . You will need to give the staff your name, phone number, and a credit card number. $25

** rescheduled: Thursday, Oct. 5, 2006 ** Wednesday, June 7, 6:45-7:45 pm, talk and booksigning before the performance of the fabulously funny "Menopause the Musical" in San Francisco. We'll even get a discount on tickets! (See detailed information in separate post.) Update: that show had to be cancelled because of an air-conditioning failure. We've rescheduled for Thursday, Oct. 5, 2006, and there's a separate blog entry about this. Thanks! -- Joan


** TO BE RESCHEDULED ** Tuesday, August 1, 8-10 pm, Good Vibrations, 1620 Polk Street (at Sacramento Street), San Francisco. Workshop: Straight Talk About Sex After 60 (women only). Yes, sex after sixty has its challenges, but it can also be sizzling and satisfying. Joan Price, ageless sexuality advocate, fitness expert, and author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty will help you face the challenges and celebrate the joys of older-age sexuality. By sharing experiences and learning with other women in a spirit of candor, acceptance, creativity, and humor, you’ll take home new tools, techniques, and attitudes that help women over sixty experience hot, joyful sex with or without a partner. Preregister at least 24 hours in advance by contacting the Polk Street Good Vibrations at (415) 345-0400. You will need to give the staff your name, phone number, and a credit card number. $25.

[updated August 1, 2006]
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Events already completed:

Thursday, January 26, talk and reading, Center for Sex & Culture, 11th & Harrison, San Francisco.

Tuesday, February 7, talk at Sports Club/LA~San Francisco, 747 Market St., San Francisco.

Sunday, February 12, Book Passage, 51 Tamal Vista Blvd, Corte Madera, CA. Valentine's event, talk and booksigning.

Monday, February 27, Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty workshop at Good Vibrations, 2504 San Pablo Ave, Berkeley, CA.

Saturday, March 4, talk and booksigning at Early to Bed, 5232 N Sheridan Rd, Chicago, IL.

Sunday, March 5, Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty workshop at Early to Bed, 5232 N Sheridan Rd, Chicago, IL.

Tuesday, March 7, talk and booksigning at A Woman's Touch, 600 Williamson Street, Madison, WI.

Wednesday, March 8, talk and booksigning at A Woman's Touch, 200 N Jefferson St. Suite 101, Milwaukee, WI.

Saturday, April 15, "Meet the Author" Book Party, Pilates Collective, 132 Weeks Way (on the Plaza), Sebastopol.

Saturday, April 22, Palm Springs Book Festival, 538 N. Palm Canyon Drive, Palm Springs.

Tuesday, May 2, talk and booksigning at Babeland, a woman-friendly sexuality shop at 94 Rivington St. (Lower East Side between Ludlow and Orchard), New York City, 212-375-1701.

Saturday, May 6 (open to women and men) & Sunday May 7 (women only), 6:30-8:30 pm, Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty workshop at Venus Envy, 320 Lisgar St., Ottawa, Canada. 613-789-4646.

Thursday, May 11, 7-9 pm, talk and booksigning at Copperfield's Books, 138 N. Main Street Sebastopol, CA, 707-823-2618.

Saturday, May 27, 9-10 pm, talk and booksigning at the San Diego Mensa Regional Gathering, Lake San Marcos Resort, 1025 La Bonita Drive, Lake San Marcos (San Diego), CA.